And just like that I am about to be 25 years old. 15 years to 40! Holy sh*t. However, unlike most people, I am not scared of getting older. I love experiencing new adventures, meeting different people, and learning new things about myself.
I am by no means a philosopher and I would hardly even call myself a good writer. However, I do have a pretty good grasp on reality and a general understanding of people. Here’s a list of 25 lessons I’ve learned over the past 25 years of my life:
1- Life is not a race.
With social media at our fingertips, it’s hard not to compare ourselves to others. Social media allows you to see people in your field that seem far more successful and living a life that feels impossible to achieve. Try changing the dynamic of beating yourself up to admiring them and figuring out how you can reach that level.
2- Everything happens for a reason.
It may feel like the end of the world when things don’t go exactly according to plan but I promise you it’s not.
3- Don’t dwell on regrets.
4- You aren’t going to make everyone happy.
So stop trying! There are over 8 billion people in the world so odds are you aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea. That’s okay! Find the people who love you for you and stick with them. 🙂
5- Failure is the most successful path to success.
6- Learn to coexist with other people.
I lived with 4 people in an apartment at one time and something I learned is you are not always going to be right and compromising is the key to success.
7- Not everyone is out to get you.
There are good people in this world and most of the time the gossip and fights you make up are all in your head.
8- If something doesn’t feel right, close that chapter in your life.
Whether it’s a job, relationship, living situation or friendship, if it isn’t 100% bringing you joy, move on.
9- Figure out what brings you happiness and make it a priority to do it often.
10- Sometimes you need to be selfish (especially with mental health.)
If you need a personal day to refocus on yourself- the people around you will thank you for it later! You don’t have to say yes to everything.
11- You don’t have to over explain yourself to anyone.
12- If you see beauty in something, don’t wait for others to agree.
13- Not everything in your life is a game of show and tell.
Learn what is sacred and what you should share on social media. It’s okay to disappear for a while!
14- Appreciate the real ones.
There are some not-so-great people in this world so when you find your people, don’t take them for granted.
15- There’s never going to be a “right” time for anything.
If you want to move to a different city, book a trip to a foreign country, cut all your hair off or jump out of an airplane (I would never) now is as good a time as any!
16- Choose a career you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.
17- “Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.” -Mark Twain
18- It’s okay to change directions with your life.
Nothing is set in stone! I studied musical theater in college and for a long time thought that was going to be my life. Once I realized there were other options, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders.
19- Endings are new beginnings in disguise.
20- Bring good energy. No one is magnetized to dull.
If you bring negative energy to the table, the only thing you’re going to get back is negative energy! Be someone that people love to be around. If someone has a bad attitude, don’t match it- CHANGE IT.
21- Don’t get swept up in work drama.
At the end of the day you are there to do just that- work. The drama and gossip will always be there but your participation in it doesn’t have to be.
22- Understand that everyone is doing their best.
It may not seem like it but everyone has their own shit going on in their lives. There is a reason for everyone’s behavior and rather than writing them off, take the time to understand why they are behaving that way.
23- Confidence is the most attractive quality a person can posses.
24- Learn when to put the phone away.
Before bed, at the dinner table, at work, and with your friends, nothing should be as important as the moment you are in. I set a timer on Instagram that tells me once I reached an hour each day. It’s super helpful to know how much time I am wasting scrolling though people’s feeds.
25- You don’t know everything.
And that is okay! All you have to do is be curious and ask. 🙂
Ciao for now,