Between Tinder, Bumble, and all the other “dating” apps out there, being single in your 20’s is not what it used to be.
When my friend explained to me what Tinder was 3 years ago, I made fun of him and THEN I sneakily downloaded it. 😉
One might say that was the “Year of the Tinder” for me.
At the time I was living with my two friends (male and female) who also had it downloaded. The three of us would get a little tipsy ahead of time, invite the person over and basically interview the poor guy who thought they were going on a date! What fun!
One of my favorite Tinder stories was the time a guy came over at noon on a weekday. I literally made us spaghetti and we watched What Not to Wear for three hours.
Surprisingly, I still talk to him. 🙂
Personally, I’d take dating apps over trying to meet a stranger at a bar- any day. That way I can do my creepin’ to make sure they don’t like to eat people!
I also think it’s so desperate going out looking for someone to go home with. NO BUENO!
Desperate! Desperate! Desperate! (I hear my mother saying that in my head.)
The problem is, with all of the different outlets on social media these days, it can get easy to mistake bullsh*t for affection. A “like” on Instagram has become the new way of flirting.
Not that I’m saying I do this (at all) but remember the days when people would write love notes to each other?! Now it’s as easy as double tapping a screen to show someone you’re interested. Romance is low key dying with us millennials!
In a world where technology is constantly progressing and our Netflix and even Hulu shows (dying to see The Handmaid’s Tale) are getting better- it’s crucial that we remain present in our real relationships and not the ones we have with our screens.
My friend Hallie (blogger of Among Other Things) made a really good point about not neglecting your path to end up on someone else’s. She’s referring to that desperate moment when you go out of your way to “end up” at the bar you know someone’s going to be at.
If it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen.
We’ve all made this mistake but the key to stopping it is reading the early signs. If someone’s not interested now, odds are they’re not going to be later!
The trick to dating in your 20’s is understanding what a catch you really are.
There are people out there who are going to get you, and then there’s ones who won’t. Those people aren’t your people.
“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” -Unknown
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